Dating uncircumcised forums
Blah blah blah.”How would you say it’s perceived to be uncircumcised?
It’s strange because it really depends on being asked. ” They said it was normal and would go down, but they did mention they had gone through a vein right there. Was there a moment after you did it where you were like, “Yes, this was 100 percent the right decision. I can’t say that there was this specific light bulb moment. But I have gotten a lot more compliments in the moment, like, “Oh nice.
As a late teen, when I started to become more sexually active, I didn’t really think it was weird, but me and my friends would always joke about it.
I knew that [not being circumcised] set me apart from my other suburban friends. Once I started diving more into [gay dating] culture, I started to see just how it was perceived within that culture. I didn’t want to come across that moment where it’s like, “Are you cut or uncut?
I’m not quite sure how the topic of circumcision came up when I met Aaron Calloway through a mutual friend recently, but it wasn’t one my new acquaintance shied away from. He also explained how being a young gay man in New York has influenced his perception of what it means to be “cut” or “uncut.”“I have been in a couple of social circles where people would be talking and say, ‘Ugh, yeah. They just assume that you’re cut and if you’re not, it’s kind of like this abomination.”Calloway also told me about his life post-op, and whether the decision to get “cut” was worth it. I started to feel very physically insecure, like maybe I should do something. But, ultimately, I had already made up my mind before I started researching it. Also, it’s a costly procedure but you can get it medically waived basically.
“I just got circumcised a few years ago,” Calloway told me moments after we started talking. ”From my perspective, there could be no such thing as TMI about one’s decision to get circumcised as an adult male. He was uncut,’ and I, like, didn’t want that,'” Calloway told me, when we spoke a second time about his circumcision. Our interview has been condensed and lightly edited for clarity. Either revitalize our sexual life or just make myself more desirable afterwards. I looked into it and was like, ‘Is this something I really want to do? So was circumcision something that had crossed your mind before it became an issue with your boyfriend?
), Calloway was extraordinarily forthcoming, opening up to me about his life pre-circumcision, his decision to have the procedure at age 21 and the process of finding a surgeon. We were having problems and were on the falling out side.
If you are someone who prefers a cut penis, or to be circumcised, it’s weird because the preference — they automatically associate it with cleanliness. I don’t know how I feel about that, but I guess it’s done already. Once you’re on board, you have to take whatever you get and there’s something scary about that. This is what I like.” That consistent reassurance is sort of my light bulb.
It’s considered a more proper penis and uncircumcised is like, weird. I don’t know how much of that is my individual preference and how much of it is an ingrained thing, like, “Oh, that’s just better.” I don’t think that I would not date someone who’s uncut, but I would be a little like, “OK, we can work with that.”So I want to talk about the procedure. How long did it take you to do all the research and make your decision? The best results take five months, and I know how hard it is. But I will say, at the end of the day, I’m more content with it. Before, I had this whole mental process before anyone would see my penis, and not having that alleviates this anxiety I used to have — foreskin anxiety.
But it makes me think, it’s weird to actually be born and have your penis hacked at. Did you find a lot of firsthand accounts to draw upon? I remember looking down and thinking, “Oh my God, they did it,” and kind of freaking out because the side of my penis had gotten really swollen. Aside from not being able to ejaculate for a while, were there any other negative side effects?
I am glad that I made the decision on my own to do it. Since you found it empowering to decide yourself, what do you think you would do for your son if you had one? Surprisingly, yes, I found a few good resources that talked about the fact that it could be medically waived. I found information about losing sensitivity and being OK with that because you still get to have an orgasm, but physically it still feels different. They said the worst part was going to be when you get boners throughout the night, essentially, like, morning wood. Also, you shouldn’t have anything touching your penis, but how do you do that when you’re sleeping? Those middle of the night boners were definitely painful, like a ripping sensation when I would get an erection. Fully, they said no sexual contact for three months. I remember being around the two and half mark and being like, “OK. I can make this happen if I’m really careful.” Trying to masturbate with an almost healed penis, it’s almost like funny looking. I thought I was going to ejaculate but I just started peeing on my bed. Besides the desensitization —So you do have less sensation now?
I would probably get him circumcised, only because I wouldn’t want him to deal with the social embarrassment of [not being circumcised], because it can come off that way. It costs a little bit extra to have [a circumcision] procedure at the hospital. When I talked to doctors I was like, “I’m definitely going to need to be put out for this. From when I checked in and checked out, it was a two-hour process. Yes, and that is something that I’m a little bit sour about. Now, I’ll cum or whatever, and it’s just more calm. I would say, in my situation, and my experiences, yes, it is to me, because I just personally feel better about it.
I’ve been in situations where if I let myself, I could’ve felt embarrassed, but I chose to own it. So if you’re already having kids and you’re going to be in the situation where you’re going to need to have government money for having kids, and you’re already thinking about it in a financial sense, it’s like, “I don’t really have to do this procedure right now. It’s too traumatizing.” Yeah, I was able to find some good resources and I guess they were accurate. I used to have very intense orgasms–my legs would curl and my head would go back. It’ll feel good, but it’s not as dramatic as before, which was nice, because it felt sexual and passionate, and now it’s just like, get out. I was with some friends who were talking about the word “smegma” and making jokes about it, and now I don’t have to feel uncomfortable in that situation, and that’s really nice.