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It sucked and I never wanted to have to do that again.After that, I decided that I will never be Facebook friends with someone I’m dating…at least until after we’re in a committed, exclusive relationship. And I also delete every email as I receive it (after responding to the message, of course! I don’t know if this is a good idea or if I’m just setting myself up for failure by being such a pessimist…because I’m deleting the messages NOW so that I won’t have to delete them LATER (i.e., after we inevitably STOP seeing each other).If your best friend thinks that “occasional” drug use is harmless and doesn’t impact other areas of his life, should YOU start doing drugs? So if I, a 38-year-old married dating coach, with a penchant for logic, a nostalgic streak, and a high tolerance for emotional upheaval, tells you that you’re being silly by deleting everything any man ever writes to you, are you actually being silly? That doesn’t mean that what you’re doing is healthy, but you already knew that. They try to figure out whether he’s a husband after three dates and pull away if they see any hint of a red flag.
Their whole existence is structured at protecting them from being emotionally vulnerable. I have every email that’s ever been written to me by a random woman from JDate.
I have photographs of every girlfriend I’ve had in 15 years in Los Angeles.
Is deleting them a bad thing (because it seems to be guided by fear) or is keeping them a bad thing (because doing so would be guided by the blinding fun/excitement/emotions of the possibility of a new relationship?
) –Valerie Dear Valerie, If my wife thinks that spending 90 minutes doing her hair and makeup is an efficient use of her time, should YOU spend 90 minutes doing your hair and makeup? They won’t hook up with a guy because he may not want to commit.
A few years ago, after I broke up the love of my life, I had a really hard time removing him from my life, but the online part stung the most.
I can throw an object away pretty easily, but de-friending and deleting someone from my entire online life – Facebook, Flickr, Linked In, not to mention hundreds of saved emails and dozens of sweet and funny text messages – hurt so much because it was almost like I had to relive our entire relationship over again or face the possibility of a status alert or old email catching me off-guard.