Is four months of dating a long time
But it felt so right--and he was so willing to wait, and so sweet about doing whatever I wanted to do--that I didn't question it at all.He and I agreed that night to stop seeing other people, and we went on to date for four months, which is close to a record amount of time for me.For instance, I knew my pal Jake Stein for more than a year before we even started dating.On the other hand, I slept with another guy on our second date--not usually the way I roll.So eventually, I decided, eh, what the hell, I'd give in to his demands! me) have much stronger emotional reactions to sex than men do.Regardless, I recently decided I'm not going to have sex with any new guy until I've been dating him Why? I've waited too long to have sex--and I've done it too soon. As I think I've mentioned, I didn't lose my virginity till I was TWENTY-EIGHT YEARS OLD--which is an example of waiting a little too long.I was waiting to find the one true love of my life, so I told myself.Waiting for marriage does not seem terribly worth doing, to me.
However, very recently, I had a bad experience after having sex too early on--after dating a very mature 25-year-old guy for less than a month.Before we met, he'd made it perfectly clear that he wasn't looking for a serious relationship; and after we met, he told me he's planning on leaving New York once he finishes up grad school next year ... Regardless, I thought I could handle having a short-term thing with him (perhaps in part because I was so intoxicated by his ridiculously sexy body). But shortly thereafter, saying he wanted to save both of us the pain of getting more deeply involved in an affair that would have to end before long (huh? It felt very abrupt, and it was very painful for me. Here are all the arguments in favor of my decision:1) Women (esp.That kind of thing might work out well in certain Amish, Hasidic or Muslim communities, but I run with a crowd that is, dare I say, a little more hip than that.And if I had to do it all over again, I'd have gotten the whole virginity thing out of the way A LOT SOONER.Lovelies: Continuing the discussion from yesterday--about whether holding out is going to make a guy more interested in a serious relationship than he would be if you guys do the deed early--I'll say that I agree with my guy friends.
My sense is that it doesn't matter how long you wait to have sex.