People mental illness dating
I like to revisit this topic every so often to allow people to post comments and add to the list. ” “It could be worse, you know.” “Everything happens for a reason.” “It’s all part of a larger plan.” “You’re only given what you can handle.” “All you need to do is think positive.” “Half the battle is the mindset.
Some of these come from the comments the last time I discussed this topic (here). Be determined to beat cancer and you will.” “Now that you’ve been through this you’re due for some good things to happen.” “I’m sure it’s fine/I’m sure it’s nothing.” “Well, you’ve been needing a vacation for a while and now [during chemo] you get to lie around and read books all day. ” “Well, do they think [the chemo] is going to do any good?
There are always eyebrow-raising things people say to those with cancer and/or their families.
Maybe not everyone would find each of the comments listed below to be offensive but they’ve been submitted by readers as ones they wish they hadn’t heard.
” “At least it’s not on your face where everyone could see the scars, besides you don’t really your breasts anyway.” “A new-agey friend asked me if I had been really angry about anything 7 years before my diagnosis that I had repressed. )” “I was advised to write a letter to my husband detailing how much I loved him so he could have something when I died.
[My husband] was standing next to me as I was being given this little chestnut.” “One said to me the day after my malignant melanoma diagnosis: ‘Maybe this will help you evaluate all the things you need to change in your life.’ ” “Last year I had part of my cervix removed surgically for PRE-cancerous cell growth.
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Those days that drag on and you just wonder and hope.I was out to eat with my youngest son, now 16, and ran into an acquaintance. Her daughter, who knows I went through chemo all a year earlier, made a comment that her mother must have a particularly strong constitution because she didn’t have trouble with side effects.My mother in law came over with dinner (nice) and then proceeded to stand there and tell me about every person she knew with cancer, how they died, and how their families went on.” “When my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer, I was a wreck.My (now ex) husband got tired of it really fast and made a rule to confine my sadness to one day per week: “you are only allowed to cry about this on Fridays.” If I felt like I absolutely had to cry Sat-Thur, I had to do it in private.” “The worst thing said to me was right before I was to have a new lump checked out.I was a 7 yr breast cancer survivor at the time, with 3 children ranging from 14-8 yrs old. hairdresser, or friend of a friend) of my diagnosis, they proceed to tell you that their uncle/cousin/friend’s mother had cancer and then that they died. People asking me if I knew how I got my cancer (and then offering me something to read about some “natural” therapy they have heard about or are selling). I fully got sick of hearing the words “positive” and “strong”; so much so that I banned my family and friends from saying them. He chose to have cancer by not managing his negative energy and he chose to die by not fighting.” “Someone I know has pancreatic cancer.
When I told a pastor’s wife I was worried about the lump, but was most worried about my children if I got bad news, she responded, ‘Oh, they will get over it. I know I got over my dad dying in a year, and I was about their age.’ ” “Gosh, I thought chemo was supposed to make you lose weight” “Nearly every person I told about my mother’s death felt the need to tell me about some relative of theirs that had passed away and how awful their death was.” “The very stupidest thing was said to me recently, a few months after treatment ended for a recurrrence. I guess they are trying to make a connection and it’s the first thing that pops into their head, but I really did not want to hear about death at that time. An email from a friend of a friend (a homeopath) telling me that breast cancer is caused my a negative relationship with your own mother. She didn’t suffer too many adverse effects throughout chemo which was fortunate for her.